What is a Memorial Service? | Planning A Memorial

16 May 2025 | 5 min read time

What Is a Memorial Service?

Losing someone we love is never easy, and finding the right way to honour their memory can feel overwhelming. A memorial service is a meaningful gathering that allows family and friends to come together, reflect on cherished memories, and celebrate a loved one’s life after their passing.

Unlike a traditional funeral, a memorial service does not require the presence of the body. This allows for greater flexibility in planning, giving families the time they need to grieve and arrange a tribute that truly reflects the individual’s life, values, and personality. Memorial services can be held anywhere, from a place of worship or crematorium to a family home, a favourite park, or even a beach—wherever feels most fitting.

With direct cremations making up 20% of all funerals in the UK in 2023, more families are choosing memorial services as a way to create a personal and meaningful tribute without the constraints of a traditional funeral.

Memorial service vs. funeral: What’s the difference?

When deciding how best to say goodbye to a loved one, understanding the key differences between a memorial service vs. funeral can help you make the right choice.

Key Differences

Presence of the Body:

Memorial Service: No body present; an urn may be displayed if cremation has taken place

Funeral: The body is present in a coffin

Timing:

Memorial Service: Can be held weeks or even months after the passing

Funeral: Usually takes place within days or weeks of the passing

Formality:

Memorial Service: Often more informal and flexible

Funeral: Typically structured with religious or traditional elements

Location:

Memorial Service: Any location meaningful to the deceased or family

Funeral: Often held in a church, crematorium, or funeral home

Participation:

Memorial Service: Family and friends often share readings, memories, or music

Funeral: Guests primarily observe the ceremony, led by a religious leader or celebrant

Memorial services provide more freedom in how a loved one is remembered, allowing families to plan something deeply personal and unique.

Memorial service vs. celebration of life: Which is right for you?

The terms memorial service and celebration of life are sometimes used interchangeably, but there are subtle differences:

Memorial services often blend elements of a traditional funeral with personal tributes, creating a balance between remembrance and celebration.

Celebrations of life tend to be more informal, focusing primarily on positive memories and achievements rather than mourning.

For example, a memorial service may include readings, music, and a eulogy, while a celebration of life might involve storytelling, laughter, and a gathering in a beloved family location. There’s no right or wrong choice—only what feels best for honouring your loved one’s memory.

Why choose a memorial service?

There are several benefits to holding a memorial service:

Time and Flexibility: Memorial services can be planned at a time that suits the family and allows distant loved ones to attend.

Personalisation: Unlike traditional funerals, they can be tailored to reflect the individual’s passions, beliefs, and achievements.

Cost Considerations: Without the need for embalming, coffins, or burial plots, a memorial service can often be a more affordable alternative.

A Supportive Environment: These services provide a space for family and friends to grieve together while celebrating cherished memories.

Inclusive for All Beliefs: Whether religious or secular, memorial services can be adapted to suit personal and cultural traditions.

Planning a memorial service

Planning a memorial service can feel overwhelming, but breaking it down into key steps can make the process easier and more meaningful:

1. Choose a Location

The venue will shape the atmosphere of the service. Consider:

Traditional settings – churches, cemeteries, crematorium chapels

Personal settings – family homes, gardens, community centres

Scenic locations – beaches, parks, or places the deceased loved visiting.

2. Select a Date & Time

A memorial service doesn’t need to be held immediately after passing. You may wish to schedule it around a meaningful date, such as a birthday or anniversary.

3. Invite Family & Friends

Memorial services can be intimate or large gatherings. Invitations can be sent via social media, email, or traditional announcements.

4. Choose a Theme & Personal Touches

Adding personal elements can make the service truly unique:

• A memory table or slideshow with photos and mementoes

• A colour theme based on their favourite shade

• Playing their favourite music or songs

• A release of lanterns, doves, or butterflies as a symbolic farewell

5. Plan the Order of Service

A structured yet flexible order of service can include:

Welcome message by a family member, celebrant, or religious leader.

Readings or poems that were meaningful to the deceased.

Eulogies and shared memories from loved ones

Music – either live or recorded, reflecting their personality.

A closing tribute, such as a final farewell or candle-lighting ceremony

6. Arrange Keepsakes & Tributes

Consider offering guests a memorial booklet or a keepsake, such as a candle, seed packets for planting in memory, or a charity donation in the deceased’s name.

How to arrange a memorial service

A memorial service can be as simple or as extravagant as you want to make it, but following these steps can help with some of the arrangements you might need to make:

  1. Check for any wishes left by the deceased in a will or pre-planning document.

  2. Choose a meaningful location that reflects their life and interests.

  3. Decide on a budget that aligns with your family’s needs.

  4. Select a service leader, whether a celebrant, religious leader, or a close friend.

  5. Personalise the event with music, readings, and tributes.

  6. Organise catering, if required, with the deceased’s favourite food or drinks.

  7. Prepare a memory book or online tribute page to encourage guests to share their stories.

Holding a memorial service: A lasting tribute

Whether you choose a small, intimate gathering or a larger tribute, the most important thing is that it reflects their personality and brings comfort to those in attendance.

How a funeral director can help

If you’re feeling unsure about the planning process, working with a funeral director can provide valuable guidance. Funeral directors can assist with:

• Choosing a celebrant or service leader

• Selecting a venue and arranging logistics

• Providing support with keepsakes and tributes

• Creating an online memorial page for guests to share memories

Support with funeral plans from Golden Charter

A memorial service is a beautiful opportunity to celebrate a life well-lived, offering comfort and connection to those left behind. Whether you opt for a formal ceremony or an informal gathering, what matters most is that it honours your loved one in a way that feels meaningful to you.

For more guidance on planning a memorial or to explore funeral plan options, visit Golden Charter’s services.

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